I think a lot of the military people on here will relate to this but dang i hate being away from my wife for 3ish weeks at a time especially when we both work 12 to 14hr days while im at home and only get about 3 days together when im home for 2-4 weeks and gone for 3ish weeks at a time. anybody else deal with this and have tips for a newly wed like me? we have only been married for just over a year.

 

When I was in the Marine Corps, I spent a year in Japan alone. I wanted her to come with me, but she didn't want to live there for 3 years. Phone calls every night (when possible) helps make the time go faster.

My wife (ex-wife now) and I got married 3 months before I went to boot camp. A year or so later I went to Japan for a year. Funny thing is we made it just shy of 10 years before things went south.

Its definately not easy being apart for so long. Just make the most of the time you are together and it can be a healthy marriage for a lifetime.

 

I was in the Navy for a little over 8 years. I missed my first 5 wedding anniversaries. Like Grrr said, phone calls can help if possible, and just make the most of your time together.

 

yea wish we could call more. but at $20 for like 15min of talking its just not easy. we email almost every day though and it helps. I just wonder if reenlisting was smart or not. i mean i love my job and she seems ok with it. but dang this **** sucks a lot more when you have a wife at home. we did talk a lot about it before i reenlisted but i just dont seem to love it like i did when it was just me i had to think about.

 

I work construction. n i can relate good sir... When im working during the day shes not when im off she working... It really does suck when im gone for a month at a time and home for maybe 4 days between jobs.. I miss her but i try to talk to her as much as possible when i can and were together i try to make the best of it!! Im not married but we have been together for 2 years.. but I can relate bro. Have you thought about maybe skype or somthing like it?? That might help if ya can do it at the same time idk?? Thanks for serving our country!!

 

Yeah those sat phones are expensive. I also emailed everyday, which helps a lot. Hang in there bud, it'll get better.

 

We got married in March 2003. April, i was gone for two weeks, came back for my birthday, went to the field for a month in May, came back for a week, and went two weeks on ship, one week home until we deployed in August. We spent 3 monthz total time together the first year we were married. Next deployment was a year after i got back, to Iraq, for a year. Its hard to do, but you have to put the effort into it, to make it work.

 

Thanks guys. I can say this about her she is tough. We both work 14hr days and even when im home we only see each other maby 2 times a week. When i was at my last command i would leave for a month on 2 or 3 days notice but it was only for training exercises. (we delt with gensets for amphibious assault stuff) She hated that but stayed and thats when i knew we were going to be able to deal with anything. Now i at least know when im leaving and coming home but it still sucks a lot. I wish we could skype but cant on ship server. And yes email is great. And at least right now we get off about the same time and stay up and talk for a couple hours a night usually. .

 

Just keep doing what you're doing. And always remember how you're feeling right now, missing each other so much, being so crazy in love, so that when you are home and years go by, and you two are dealing with those everyday irritating little things like how to squeeze the toothpaste tube and taking out the garbage, you can look back and remember what's really important-how much you love each other.

Thank you both for your sacrifice, and thank you for your service.

 

sunsetsky, you make a good point. Now i just have to remember this when im always home.

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well i pretty much just screwed myself and now she wont talk to me and i cant call only email. great what a great damn life i have now. sitting on a ship for another week or so and cant fix what i screwed up and she gonna be gone by the time i get home. guess its gonna be a nice boat ride. :a rgh: