Thanks, you were a big help.
Yea that cross-member was a real bummer. LOL I think the factory put camber into the frame so they could just drop the cross-member in from above and it would sit in place w/o having to be held in place for bolting. The wife even chipped in by reading the dial on the HD torque wrench I borrowed, ...since I couldn't put my feet against the running boards, pull my guts out, and read the dial all at the same time. Didn't have enough room for the cheater bar that came with the wrench.

 

Continuing to cross my fingers, And staying out of 5th gear at less than 1500rpm.
Update: Miles now at 145K (145k-138k = 7k), which I know is not a lot of history for the durability of the fix. It includes one 4200mi trip which was primarily 5th gear interstate. Again, thanks for all the help from this forum.