It would be interesting for you to go back and ask whoever told you it would score the head what they meant. I would think they meant scoring of the cylinder and pistons. This can occur anytime they touch (The pistons don't actually touch the cylinder - usually!). I'm going to call BS too though because while the oil pressure is used to fire the injectors (Sort of, anyway . . . . ) this oil pressure is regulated and controlled and just changing the weight of the oil won't necessarily change the operating pressure.
The other thing I noticed was what you guys were saying about timing. Yes the engine has crank and / or cam position sensors that send info to the computer so it will be able to track exactly where the engine is at all times (Many measurements / pulses per second!). Only way these can 'change' timing is if the sensor or tone wheel is moved from where it is supposed to be. On modern diesels the computer does alter the timing based on it's programming. To change or adjust the timing on a diesel, the injector is fired at a different time (Since when the injector fires fuel is when the combustion takes place. This is similar to the spark plug firing on a gas motor, which is what is changed to adjust it's timing.)
If a PowerStroke becomes hard to start in the cold, first thing I would suspect would be the glow plugs. If it looses only one (Out of the 8 it has!) it will make it hard to start. If it looses more it won't start! You can ohm them to check them but they can deteriorate inside and actually heat up near their base instead of out on the tip like they are supposed to. Under these conditions they can still ohm ok so the only way to completely check them is to remove them and energize them and see where they glow. If they are 'open' (Burnt out) or heat up near the threads, replace them. You can just replace bad ones, but be aware they do have a 'life' span so you may be back to do more of the others fairly quickly. If you decide to do it this way, keep track of where the new ones are and as long as they are not defective, you hopefully won't be pulling them again right away to find bad ones.
If you need new glow plugs, OEM is your best bet for value for the money. All 8 are going to cost you about $85 (I think - We are picking up a set for my boy's this week, so we will know for sure then.) Only other things you need to check in this system are the electrical connections from the batteries to and through the glow plug relay. Quick and dirty way is to just do a voltage drop test from the batt + to the output of the relay while it is on. You don't want to see more than .2 VDC! If it is, then move your leads around to find where the drop is occurring. If it's in the relay and cleaning the cable connections doesn't cure it, then replace the relay (Same goes for any cable. If cleaning it's connections doesn't make your voltage drop go away, replace the cable.).
On the early PowerStrokes, check the plug on the valve cover for obvious melting. If a glow plug goes bad and draws too much current, it can cause the plug and connector to get too hot and melt. You don't want that! If all that checks out, then you should have a PowerStroke that will start when it's cold out!
(Some guys report that their diesel won't start anymore in the cold unless they continue to use ether. It is possible to bend connecting rods with ether. Once that happens the engines compression is lowered and it won't have the power it did and it will be hard to start in the cold even if it's starting aide is working correctly. I would just recommend to not ever use the stuff! If a diesel won't start, figure out what the problem is and correct it. Then it will start correctly and you won't take the chance destroying it!)