woman problems... i need help
 

whats new right??
anyway we are over our little problem... i'm just running out of things to say.

she just texted me said "i'm all done arguing"....

to me that says end of subject... her best friend is telling me it's a good thing cuz she's agreeing with me and i'm supposed to say somthing nice back...

i need somthing creative, this winter has been getting to me i been at lack of thought since i got laid off... anyone have any suggestions?

:humm:Women get the last word in every argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument. I think your getting set up:pca1: I got nuthin. Just when ya think ya got'em figured out they throw ya curve ball. Be careful!:c:

don't let her **** someone else in anger. thats all the advice I have.

I am sorry, I love you, I will try to listen to you better next time, lets practice cunnilingus.

I dont have any idea what the issue was, I haven't been on in a while if this refers to something in a previous thread, but if you think she means it in a nice way, if you are comfortable with where things are at, then let it go, and just say something like,
"Okay. I'm glad to leave it go, too, and get back to what's really important, and enjoy some time together."
Then, suggest some kind of nice thing to do together that you've either enjoyed before or have talked about doing, to just bring things back on track. Maybe a country ride, or dinner out, or make a dinner and stay in, a walk by the river (if it's not too cold, and if there is one near-bye). My personal favorite: catching a nice sunset.

If you think she's being sarcastic, and just waiting for the next round of the fight, I got nuthin. If a person is just looking for a fight there's not much you can do. Maybe just say, "I'm really glad. I don't want to fight about this anymore, either," and then see how she replys.

Like I said, I don't know the situation at all, but I do know it is really easy to misunderstand someone in a text or email cuz you can't hear their tone of voice or see the expression in their eyes.

Hope it works out for you.

and thats why i got divorced :tu:
i have been with this girl for 3 months, she doesn't do antyhing. just goes to work or stays home watching tv, she's a single mother so she can't go to far... she doesn't seem like that type....

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gees thats nice, but what do i say to her? lol

:lol88:

Are you bummed about losing this woman?
I've been having shit luck lately too... Normally I just let go and move on as quickly as I can. Always works better that way but it's still so frustrating.

nope, i told her yesterday...that if she's not willing to work this out just let me know when it's ok to pick my stuff up. apprently that bothered her, her best friend has been talking to me she told me what i said really got to her.

well then she has some feelings for ya :tu:
sometimes its just better to swallow yer pride and say your sorry :w2:
tell her being laid off is getting to ya and thats why ya get bitchy :pca1::tttt::c:

X2 been there more than once been with my wife for 17yrs on Jan 31st and will have been married for 14yrs in march :choochoo:. But ya just kinda gotta know when to hold em and know when to fold em. As for what to tell her you know her better than us but just like was said before something nice and maybe a little get away or drive for a few hours. Good luck buddy hope all is gets better I feel for ya relationships can be a b!t(#. sometimes. :pca1:

:tu: :tttt:

i know thats what she wants... so i'm probably gonna just have to give in.

but the problem started like a week and a half ago now, that weekend she didn't show any affection hardly at all wouldn't even sit on the couch with me.. and all last week, when i was home at my place for the week, she texted some, she wouldn't even call. we talked last Wednesday night. then not again until saturday. witch is kinda wierd cuz since we met we talk every night for at least an hour minimum.
but saturday i talked then went to her place saturday night, same thing no affection, no nothin... so yeah i'm starting to think she's loosing intrest.. so that morning i packed my bag and left before she got out of of bed, i left some stuff there because i couldn't fit it in my bag for the most part.
still we havn't talked since just texted. but i guess her whole reasoning is she gets really depressed and doesn't want to talk to anyone... he friend confirms this and said she does this once in a while and has for years now..

she really is a good person, i'm just having a hard time dealing with this.
i sent her a text a little while ago apologizing for my behavior.. witch i hate to do, because i don't see this as being my fault.

ya also might want to think maybe she is acting this way because she is scared
the kid might be liking you too and she is afraid of them getting hurt if things don`t work out with you 2 :humm: :pca1:

Nice thinkin busta! :tu:

yeah, that thought crossed my mind but i don't bring it to her attention.
i guess thats somthing she should really think about before she starts acting up.

her son is 9 so he's easy to talk to, he tells me stuff i don't think he tell's his mother.
like he got a wii for christmas, she took almost 2 weeks after christmas just to get it out of the box! he told me the other day they have only payed it 3 times since he got it.
that like torture to a kid.

ya ever think that maybe that is why she is acting up :w2:
9 year old boy is looking for a father figure
he is gonna be telling her things he don`t tell you too
its tough taking on a ready made family
sounds like the 2 of ya need to sit down and talk
take em out to my romantic restaurant mickey d :c::pca1::tttt:

Yep sounds like a good ol fashioned heart to heart. I my self have a hard time talking about what i am feeling so I can relate to her and just bottleing it up and not saying anything and the gettin all pissed or quiet. But yea if you can really get her to open up and let you know what she is feeling thats what you need to do with her if you can get to talk. And if she does start to open up and if she is anything like the way I am you just need to be receptive open minded and calm to what ever she has to say. Cause with me if someone starts gettin mad or thinkin im a dumbass or something like that I'll just shut up and its all over for me. So if you can just have a nice calm talk with her to see where you two stand and what your furture holds as a couple.

94Matt's #1 rule for dating- No chicks with kids

It will always be an issue that will haunt other aspects of the relationship.

I'd say just let her go and move on.

i can't she won't call me just text. i tried calling her twice... only friggan twice for the last week in a half. and her frinds just say she needs a little space.. it's not like i'm smothering her. trust me i want to talk, it's difficult to understand everything through texting. i hate that shit any way. but apparently it's the only way she's will to tell me whats goin on.
i tried to talk to her the other night in bed, she wouldn't say anything, i asked is it somthing i did, she said no i told you u didn't do anything.... that's all i could get out of her

24 years experince
 

Practise learning how to give your wife the best orgasm ever.I use the french method,and give her at least 30 to 40 cluster Os.
Then I mount and take care of my business.Read womens magazines.Online chats.This stops most silly fight,and they smile all week.

yeah, the older we get the harder that is to happen.
i like kids, i really do. i rather have some of my own but i treat her son pretty good.

I ain`t had too many relationships that didn`t have kids
at 15 i was sleeping with a 30 yr old with 2 kids :w2:
hmm ya knock her up bow :tttt::pca1:

Is that where you hum "When the Saints go Marching In" while you repeatedly spell "merci beacoup" with your tongue?

if i were you, i would let her have her space and not call or text her.. and tell her when shes ready to act like a grown person then call you so yall can talk, :yeah:

^^This. Maybe the reason I'm still single is I don't put up with texting bullsh!t, and no damn headgames, if you have something to say, say it, cause I know I will:tu:

throw your phone against the wall and STOP texting, pick up a land line and call her that way. texting while fighting is for high school, not real relationships. just my two cents....... i couldn't afford a phone while i was dating so we did our fighting in the front yard:argh:

Call her on a landline. Ask if ya can come over and play the Wii with her and her son. It's alot of fun, and who knows it might just give you the opportunity to talk face to face; and get this all sorted out. Just my $.02. good luck . :tu::pca1::c:

dude...combine post #24 & and the beginning of#26 and thats what you do...ive been in that situation and i've responded all sorts of ways...most of which were wrong.....that phone is ur enemy....(currently dating a 28yr old single mother w/ a 3yr old).....def. has its challenges...but space for her is a must and lose the phone....i wish u the best

and i thought i came here tonight to learn about aftermarket injectors...lmao

dude i know, i only text in response, cuz thats the only option i'm getting form here. i think if we talked face to face we probably would have any problems... everyone has "phone balls" having issues with someone face to face is different. if she can't do it face to face...well apparently the problem isn't important enough to worry about....right?

the girl i'm seeing is 27 with a 9 year old........ and he's a good kid, not difficult at all to handle. he never get's in trouble or anything... she should consider her self lucky that way.
well sweet jesus! as i'm typing i got a text.... "good night hun"

is this some kinda of trap?

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so now do i get my turn to be distant for the next week and a half?

How is this problem not being solved through generous invocation of cunnilingus?

easy peasy lemon squeezy....... who said it's not gonna happen?

text her back and say it could be how bout i come over and we have a chat

whit jr cunnilingus don`t count with goats :tttt::pca1:

i did.... she said f-off and come get your stuff....














lol j/k

after a divorce and several girlfriends-
RULE #1- DO NOT play games, and ESPECIALLY games where she's making the rules and they keep changing. WALK AWAY. NOW. If it was meant to be, she'll come to her senses and call (ignore the texts, except to answer ONE with "no more texts, when you want to talk, CALL"

It's a power game, she's having self doubt issues etc and yanking your chain to see "how much you love her"
You'll never win this game, and it will get worse and worse as time goes on.

BE YOURSELF, be a man YOU are proud to be, and don't let her change that. DON'T go out and get laid, close the bar, etc. let her know what and who she's in danger of chasing off, let her decide, and go from there.

I tried for 13 years to be what my now ex wanted me to be, and forgot who I was, when I looked in a mirror I didn't know who or what I saw, but I HATED him.

Now, after 9 or 10 girlfriends, most of which I told to go away when they started the games, I met one that's everything I ever hoped for, and who lets me know she's proud of who I am and isn't trying to change me. I fix her truck and she feeds me- PERFECTION and worth the wait to find her

^^^i agree, i would giver her space an see what she does!!!:pca1:

she can run the show, i don't care....
i mean, i go to her house, she cooks for me all the time.. she won't let me cook.
she keeps the house spotless, she just tells me to leave my dirty cloths beside the bed and she takes care of them. when we go out i pay often... witch i really don't mind, isn't that what i'm supposed to do any way? but she's so independant she pays from time to time. i think it annoys her i try to pay for every time we go out. but i figure thats fair that i pay any way cuz she cooks for me and buys all the food for her house. she treats me really good, better then my ex wife ever did.

trust me if she didn't do any of this, i wouldn't deal with any of her crap.
besides i think the figured out she couldn't push me around when i told her " if your not willing to work this out let me know when to pick my stuff up" he best friend said it really bothered her and she said she thinks i hurt her... at the time i didn't know if she was gonna get rid of me or not... i figured that would have been an easy way out if that is what she wanted..

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i did..... she came to me i didn't go to her

its so crazy that you can never see it when it's happening to you...but when it's happening to someone else it seems so obvious......reading through everyones responses...most are really offering up some 'golden nuggets' of info..use it...yeah of course she's going to contact you.....just to know that your still there....which you can be, but not under these circumstances.....and i'm not talking about playing games and all that BS.....you said it yourself....A face to face is best........well that cant happen until she anties up to the table.......space and seriously, put your phone under the back tire of your truck and run it over

if by some reason it doesnt work out and your getting that really really sh!!ty feeling.....the best cure would be to nail one of her friends, preferably her best friend then move on totally...good luc

[QUOTE=4NiKate;486406]its so crazy that you can never see it when it's happening to you...but when it's happening to someone else it seems so obvious......reading through everyones responses...most are

i totally agree, like last night she says "good night hun" to me that seems like shes coming out of it. i don't want to be the a-hole and ignore her when shes being nice.
although u could be right and she was just checkin in to make shure i'm still here... i didn't really think of that... i guess we'll find out today, i generally get a good morning... if i don't get one.. then apparently she's still got an attitude. we usually don't talk till night around 9 and mostly text all day.... i hate texting, but i tolerate it, seems like that how most people work now a day.... i even have plow customers text me that's pretty sad

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well no good morning, so i guess the game is still on? or was i expected to say it?
i dunno.. but i'm not making any moves.

flowers and a card usually keep my wife on the good side when things are a little down. shows you care and are thinkin of them, for whatever reason, she really likes it when i have them sent to her work. i don't know if it just makes her proud and she can show off a little to the office that her husband is sweet and thoughtful, but it works, well most of the time.......sometimes its not you, its other things around her and she is just venting on you. i would hang on for a week or two and then start to worry about it, that is what husbands and boyfriends are for, i think it keeps women from doing damage to others:humm:

The relationship has to have an open line of two way communication or it can't work. You don't need the aggravation in your life trying to figure out why she's not talking. Her friend told you that she has done this before.
Do you realy want all this drama in your life?

WALK AWAY :s:


This is just my two cents while looking in from the outside.



Disclaimer: I'm not a psychologist, psychoanalyst or doctor in real life or on TV.