There is a girl at work that I am interested in. From talking to her we seem to have alot in common. She's really sweet, shy and cute. I am pretty sure she has a boyfriend, but I don't know how serious they are, she very rarely mentions him. I enjoy talking to her and spending time with her, and I don't want to ruin that. So far the best advice I've gotten was to take it one day at a time and see what happens, but I want her to know that I'm interested without coming on too strong. What should I do, I'm lost. Thanks for your kind replies.

 

i have leaned some times if you take your time it's to late when you finally get around to asking.

the best advice i can give is "be your self" i know thats kinda old and Corney.
but she's gotta like you for who your are.
just pay attention to how she acts around you.
if she like hanging around you talking or if she comes to you for a question.
smiles alot around you. she probably likes you back.
if so make the move. if she's with some one she will tell you.

 

If you're a good guy, your colors will show. The more you push a lady, the more she may be apprehensive. Patience pays off...Good luck!

 

I think keep your relation strictly @ a work level, no more, no less. Dating, getting involved with co-workers is a bad idea. What happens if things don't work out? It makes working together difficult. Just my $.02

 

i suggest leaving her alone.
my wife hates it when she catches me messing around with girls at work...

you can try hoping that she will still be available when or if your wife dies...
but my advice is 2 women at the same time are too much trouble....and dangerous for your health....i had a gal try to kill me.....
sometimes the girls will try to kill each other then it's kinda fun, but you never know....

here's a perfect example of what i'm talking about.
my wife made me fire a perfectly good secretary. she was even learning to type.....

 

Women like confidence but they do not like arrogance or forwardness. Just be yourself. If you like, you could invite her to something non threatening to her or her "other" relationship. Something like lunch with other co workers or some kind of event that you could attend with some other friends so it's more like a casual outing of sorts. She will come around. People in general want someone they can connect with and feel comfortable around. It sounds as though you guys have taken the first step in that direction. If she's smart she'll want to explore it a little further, test the water so to speak. I wouldn't rush her though. You'll know when the time is right and she will too.

 

i agree with Buckshot.

sorry my earlier post was ment to be funny.

i think you should get more dating experience first by using any one of many internet dating services....
internet dating services

save this cutie pie at work until you are more sure of yourself or maybe never date her while she's a co-worker......
you're young, she's young, there's a good chance one of you will change your work place in the next year or two, then try to date her....

my son has girls calling him, e-mailing him, text messaging him all the time...
maybe hook-up with my space dot com...

when internet dating...... just meet the gals for lunch on week-ends only at some restaurant or pizza place....then you can dump her/them if she's not what you hoped for and whole evening won't be ruined....you should be able to meet 2 new gals each week, one for lunch on saturday and one on sunday....

tell this gal at work how wierd the internet gals are that you've dated, then maybe she will ask you out.

don't forget text messaging is big deal with some, so make sure you have it and know how to use it......

 

Thanks everyone, she's come to a few BBQ's with the coworkers and we have spent alot of time talking there too. On slow nights she'll invite me to watch movies with her, this is at work, not going out. I do just try to be myself, it's much easier that way. When I'm busy at work occasionally she'll walk by a window and we'll exchange a smile. But for now I'll just take it slow. Please keep the advice coming, thank you again.

 

i just remembered your profile says you are 21 years old.

if you have your bachelor's degree disregard my below comment...

if you don't have a degree...... quit your job at the end of summer and enroll in college....forget girls period.... get a degree, get a degree, get a degree, get a degree, get a degree....

you will meet all the smart girls worth having.....
when or if you have a degree they will also want you....

 

I would not say to quit the job but work towards getting a degree, I have to say that you meet better quality women when you have a degree than you do before, but there are the rare times that isn't the truth, and just cuz she is in college doesn't make her a keeper. .02