Relationship question? Need advice!
 

Just bare with me on this. Back in 9th grade i dated this girl name christal. We got along very well and had alot in common. We ended up dating and spend time together, took her home after school andhelped her dad and grandpa alot. But the thang was, she complained alot. Thats one thing i hate about people is complaining. I ended up, breaking up with her. Other then that, there was really nothin wrong with us. We quit talkin for the longest time. Well, 5 years later. We tarted talkin again like friends but this ime she has a bf. We started talkin about the past, she wanted to know why. I replied that i was a dumba$$ and stupid to leave her. (Which now i realize that) and i told her that i wanted her back in my life. And again i told her why. I kept on trying to get with her, giving her reasons and told her how much i missed her. Her bf doesnt really treat her right like they fight alot. I tell her, to dump him and get a better man. One that will be there for her. And shes like maybe. I keep trien and one day i gave up trien to chase her. Like a week or 2 goes by and i started talkin to another girl name ashley. We was seeing each other and of coarse i got attached to her. Talked to her like 3months. Well christal found out about it. And of coarse sbe was gettin mad. I tol her that she had a bf and she was like, bryan i love you and i dont know wat to do. I really love you and i like him but i dont wanna hurt me andhim. So we dropped it. Everything seemed perfect with me and ashley and i came back from the military ball. I surprised her at work. Witched she loved. The next day rolled around and she really doesnt text back but she was straight forward with things and i could tell something was wrong. So we ended up quit talkin. And i went back to christal. Started talkin again and we get close like kissing. Her bf is still givin her a hard time. And again, shes like i dont know what to do and im like just follow your heart. Well, were still close and kissing. Then out of no where ashley texted me a pic of me and her and she said that idk wat happen but i miss you. And thats where im at now. She i stay with christal and see if they break up or should i move on and see how thangs will work with me and ashley? But alittle more info, me and christal love each other but hes the only problem. But i dont wanna wait around bc she may or may not do it? What do y'all think? Any suggestions ideas will greatly help!!

Thanks,
Bryan

I say tell christal to break it off with her bf and come on or you gotta move on. good luck

Here is how I see it. If cristal has the feelings you say she does then it would be a no brainer on her part to come to you. It seems like shes playing games to me. Ashley may have another guy on the side if she quits talking to you and out of the blue starts texing you. That usually means she got tired of the other guy. If I were you I would tell both of them to kick bricks and move on, they're just messing with you. A good piece of advise a friend told me once is do not get attached. It causes a lot of grief. So far its worked for me. Stay single and give your truck all the love(and money) until a girl who appreciates you comes along.

Yup what he said ^^^


Strokin' Away

Thanks guys! With christal, im gonna back off alittle bx i told her last night that if she loved me that she needed to show me. So im gonna wait a few days and see what happens. If she really loves me or not. But with ashley, im gonna pretend that nothin is wrong and try to do the same, if she reallt likes me or not.

Dont get me wrong, i love the single life, so easy and un-complicated. But i wouldnt mind to settle down and start a family. Teach my little kids, what diesels are all about!!:tu:

This all makes sense to me, except I wouldn't say don't get attached. I'd say don't get attached until you're with someone who is also getting attached to you. Neither of those girls are. If someone's attached, there's no bf except You, and they don't just stop talking for no reason, and then show up again out of the blue. Wait until it happens and the girl is just as much into you as you are into her. Then take the chance, one step at a time.

I guess if it were me I would tell christal she better figure out what she's going to do because I wouldn't wait around for a chick with a boyfriend who says she has feelings for me but wont do anything about it. As for ashley i guess i would try one more time and see what happens

Thanks, i told christal that i was gonna leave her alone and let her decide and when she chose the answer to tell me. If she loves him that i would leave her alone and if she loved me that we would work it out. And i told her that i didnt know what to say or do and she was like me either. So im gonna wait and see fellers. I know this is a stuip question but would you stat friends with and maybe make a move if they broke up?

My $0.02, for what it's worth, would be to drop both of them as full-time prospects. If a girl is into you, there is no one else. Girls aren't like guys, they don't do polygamist relationships if they're serious about you, (unless they're warped in the brain through religion, abuse or whatever.) Neither of these girls are serious about you. I would try and keep Cristal as a friend, 'cause you have a long history and seem to get along without having sex complicate things. And that, my friend, is rare to have. On top of that, a female point of view is ALWAYS handy when trying to sort out your problems. :tu:
As for Ashley, I'd try and do a no-strings, lets-go-and-have-some-fun thing with her, with no intention of getting serious with her. If you're like me, you fall in 'love' with most any girl who pays you attention. :argh: But when you find 'the one', you'll know it. Neither of these girls are 'the one'. :nope: Don't be in a hurry to settle down with whoever, you'll regret it in the end. :scare2:
Hope this helps. :c:

I saw a quote the other day... It said, ''Its impossible to truly love 2 ppl at once.... Cause If you truly loved person #1 you wouldn't have fell in love with person #2..''